A really good friend of mine has been trying to get me to join an online dating site, as my love life these days is something to be reckoned with. I finally agreed to try one out, and have to say that is one hell of a rabbit hole I just fell down. I have been for the past […]

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A really good friend of mine has been trying to get me to join an online dating site, as my love life these days is something to be reckoned with. I finally agreed to try one out, and have to say that is one hell of a rabbit hole I just fell down.

I have been for the past few days filling out questions on everything from what kind of political views I hold to the kind of yogurt I eat in the morning. I have been saying no he can’t smoke, yes he must like dogs, maybe on if he wants to ever  bring handcuffs into the bedroom.

Dang…you know what, this is like custom building a relationship. This is “Build a Boyfriend.”

Honestly the more I think about it, the more I like it.

Everything you ever wanted in a man..all based on a yes or no, and a profile pic.

The thing is, that most of these so-called “profile  matches” that they set me up with sound Fantabulous…it’s like “they like to travel, to hike, to go to Laker games, to cook, to dance. They like Greenday and Mozart and have actually read “Catcher in the Rye.”

Lets face it though..the main thing I am interested in, is what they look like. A picture says a thousand words…or does it?

Online Dating and Body Image

A picture is actually a mere reflection of what that person really is about.

The same goes for everybody.

Honestly…let’s admit it..we base so much of how we feel about somebody we would potentially date based on how they look.

Now in a way this could be really damaging, because I and a lot of other people know we are being judged by whatever pictures we put up.

It’s a catch 22 I tell you. If you have the slightest scar on your face, a bump in your nose, a freckle in the wrong location, you could be deleted. It’s like rejection central, and it’s on my end as well. I’ll admit that although their profiles sound enticing sometimes their pics make me wonder if I should just get it over with and take a vow of celibacy.

I’m going to throw out a scenario here and just think about it for a sec…what if…what if the whole world went “blind” tomorrow? Everybody just suddenly lost their sense of sight. Online Dating and Body Image

Now what?…UH OH…Alert Donald Trump it looks like the bathing suit competition in his Miss Universe Pageant just got cancelled.

Oh I am really sorry Michael Kors, but we no longer need any super skinny models to walk the runway.

Suddenly advertisers couldn’t use overly endowed Swedish blonde chicks with perfect skin to sell their beer.

I actually am fascinated by this concept.

I bet if you asked Stevie Wonder or Ray Charles to describe somebody who was fat, skinny, ugly or beautiful they wouldn’t be able to do it.

The images that must be in their minds are all based off of people’s personalities. I am sure there are people they do and don’t like, but it isn’t based off of the way they look.  Stevie didn’t write that song , “isn’t she lovely” based on some chicks  figure.…forshizzell it was written about some girl’s soul.

Case in point, I have a few  little secret crushes on guys based primarily on personality. They are not overly handsome, but it’s just something about the way they laugh or the way they smile, or the way they can go to head to head with me on lines from “Ferris Bueller’s Day Off”  this is honestly just what turns me

Sometimes I wish it was personalities we saw first instead of eyes, abs or ass..but this is who we are.

Perhaps it is on purpose sometimes that life deliberately confuses us. Maybe it’s to teach us a lesson that it’s not all about the outside.

A lot of us sacrifice our happiness because we want to appear more attractive and what happens is it makes our personalities disappear.

I am at fault for that, and each and everyday I have to remind myself, what’s really important in this world. It’s not about what you weigh, it’s all about who you are.

Am I going to go on a date with the 4 foot tall Asian Guy in a Harry Potter T shirt holding a Bud light?…um probably not..but I just might give the guys with the not so perfect nose, the wrinkle in his brow, or the receding hairline a chance.. Love is blind after all..and he might just be the one.


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