When Forgiveness Isn’t Offered
You don’t get to have an eating disorder without hurting some people along the way. (Yet another way eating disorders share common features with addictions.)
But what if, on the way to getting healthy, we seek forgiveness and it isn’t given?
Then we need be reminded
…that when regret is sincere, an apology to another need
not be accepted.
Seek to speak purely from your heart. When you have
made a mistake, erred as all humans do, admit it, feel your regret as your inner truth, share it with those who matter in the incident, ask forgiveness, but do not require it in order to move on in peace.
Another person’s forgiveness is not what is needed. Only your own. If the distress you caused was unintentional, say you are sorry, then hold in a place of
love those who will not forgive you. It may be a larger hurt they are healing.